Reaction Mastery-A life changing skill

I recently started posting a series on anger management but then I was thinking that many of the 
Principles and Insights therein and that I had planned for the future apply to our reactions in general and not only to anger.
Mastering the general principles of mastering our reactions can potentially ripple into every area of our lives and we can experience a change,an injection of new energy and motivation not to settle but continuing to strive for more, gaining fulfillment ,meaning ,achievement etc that we might at times have previously thought out of our reach.This will be my focus because I need it and hopefully it will help you too

Reaction Mastery- A Life Transforming Skill

When you realize that no matter how wrong others are or that you perceive they are there is no immutable law that they have to agree with you then you will become more agreeable and that which feeds your negative reactions  will not find a state of mind that will grant it a visa

Reaction Mastery- A Life Transforming Skill

Let us take a type of reaction- anger
What is at the center of one's anger?
I am not talking about whether the issue itself is important or whether you are right or wrong about it just about getting angry
I would like to suggest that consciously and or subconsciously,if we are truly honest with ourselves, it is that we cannot stomach that someone does not agree with us,is not on board with how we look at life or this situation specifically
So the real source of anger is arrogance..Whaaaaaat!!!!...not meee!!!!..yes you me and others, the sooner we acknowledge it the sooner we progress

When we learn to make space for other people to express themselves , be themselves and even try and understand them even if we think they are talking nonsense, we broaden the possibly of building bridges and gain some humility where even we might eventually see the arrogance in anger

Reaction Mastery- A Life Transforming Skill

Your reactions are fed by the story you tell yourself consciously and/or subconsciously about anything or anyone.Choose to change your story and your reactions are starved of their negativity

Reaction Mastery- A Life Transforming Skill

The paradigms that you have accepted ,maybe even from childhood ,that prevent you from mastering your reactions sit in your subconscious which absorbs everything.
Take the time to examine what you believe about the issues , people etc that you allow to trigger your reaction and be honest enough to reevaluate , reframe, etc mull them over and once you find a way to change your destructive paradigm/s your reactions will suddenly become a lot more easier to master, it might seem too easy, that is the destructive power of negative paradigms which dull our awareness and hypnotizing us into extended slumber perplexed by why we are stuck.
Yet
the opposite is also true when you embrace positive empowering inspiring paradigms you start to feel the change almost immediately, unstuck and free to move forward.
This all takes effort...put in the time...if it feels challenging that just means more of your greatness needs an opportunity to shine
G-d thinks you are worth the effort ..so should you

Reaction Mastery- A Life Transforming Skill

Be brave enough to hone your emotional intelligence which will reveal when you react in a way you are not happy with etc , why you do , what  emotions you allow  to make it easier for you to  react in this way..

Reaction Mastery- A Life Transforming Skill

Once you understand in your heart as well as your mind that
UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES IS ANYONE EVER RESPONSIBLE BUT YOU for you choosing to be,think,act,react etc in the way that you do
then you are well on your way,in fact more than half the way there to mastering your reactions